In psychology, there is a theory according to which we identify with clothes. This idea is in demand both in the scientific and in the bohemian environment. Writers, artists and musicians not only look in a special way, but also reflect in their work the connection between the wardrobe and the inner world of its owner . An example of such a relationship is “a man in a case”. How not to become the second Chekhov Belikov? Learn to notice in yourself and your loved ones dangerous impulses.
How to “see” someone who is not self-confident? Appreciate clothing
A flying silhouette and lightweight fabric help “not the southerner” to endure the unusual high air temperature. However, if in everyday wardrobe 75% of things are shapeless dangling "duvet covers", then it is just right to sound the alarm and begin to take actions aimed at increasing self-esteem.
Things that hide a figure
The story of Belikov. He was afraid of absolutely everything, was not sure of his ability to survive the slightest changes in the weather or in life, so he “shackled” himself in a shell of clothes. It was the hero’s shield and his amulet, his best friend and companion for obsessive-compulsive disorder. He needed external protection more than communication or family, since the internal defense system did not have sufficient strength.
Important! Inner weakness, timidity and insecurity - this is what makes us look for support in clothes.
Long, voluminous, shapeless, stretched things
Important! It is necessary to possess certain internal forces in order not to be afraid to declare oneself. It is much easier to merge with gray colors, to become part of the situation. If they forget about you immediately, as soon as they stop looking at you, then they will never require anything, and you will not have to exert force to comply.
A little differently interpreted endless hoodie among the full. Usually women with magnificent forms gravitate towards this. Because of their complexion, they are sure that they are constantly “under the gun” of other people . To get rid of the attention of others and to protect themselves from possible condemnation, clothes without strict lines are used. It turns out the following scheme:
rejection of one’s own body makes one think that everyone around him doesn’t accept it, and, possibly, laugh at its fullness (sometimes this is an absolute delusion);
- in order to stop being in the spotlight and protect oneself from ridicule, a person seeks protection and support from clothing, which, in his opinion, disguises all problem areas;
- he gets used to hide his shortcomings and ceases to regret that, together with the features of the body that require correction, they disappear from the form and dignity of the figure;
- due to the fact that good looks are never emphasized, a woman begins to forget about their presence, but on the other hand, her fleece clothing reminds her of flaws every second.
A woman who does not remember the merits of her figure, but constantly keeps in front of herself and herself a reminder of the features of the body that require correction, productively cultivates complexes in herself. As a result, obsessive thoughts like “everybody looks at me, they laugh at me” are fixed, like shapeless clothes in the wardrobe.
Important! Everything should be a measure. Do not allow yourself to fall into a vicious circle in which clothes become of the same type, reminiscent of something bad or fuel self-doubt.
Trying something new is taking risks. But where to find the courage to experiment in yourself, if you are embarrassed by yourself or all your life merged with the crowd so that you are not noticed, and this did not lead to failure? It is much safer not to leave the zone of facelessness, to move in the same direction, to walk along the beaten and repeatedly tested track.
Dark colors so as not to stand out
Important! Psychologists have highlighted colors that speak of low self-esteem. Here they are: light yellow, gray, green-brown, blue-gray.
Another point is depersonalization with a black and white dress code. Behind the form is not visible to the person, his experiences or the inner world. For those around him, he turns into a “white collar” or “office plankton” - into one of millions of exactly the same subjects.
Multilayer sets of old clothes
Fear of the new, dissatisfaction with changes in the figure, longing for the past - this is what lies behind the desire to wear clothes that are many years old. Moreover, many women who have put on a fat cross like to hide behind the fact that their husband, children or parents need a new wardrobe much more than they themselves. Such a position once again emphasizes one’s own unimportance, depreciation.
Important! If a mother does not like herself and looks bad, will her child be well next to her? Or will he begin to be shy about her parents and fragile family relationships will get a deep crack?
Clothing that does not match the imperfect figure
Shoes are among the first three things that make it possible to assess a man’s worth and taste of a woman. But sometimes dusty shoes do not indicate the absence of a car, and a sock that has gone out of fashion is not an indicator of disorientation in trends. Just shoes, like clothes, demonstrate the inner world of man. If you rephrase Bulgakov, then the problem is not in downed heels and not in the square shape of the toe, the problem is in the head.
The cardinal opposite: all trendy bright fashionable things - at once!
To begin with, we clarify that wearing something inappropriate for a particular person, but located among trends or worn for the sake of imitation, an idol can be a sign of internal problems or contradictions. In the fashion magazine or on the page of the online store there was a “wow”, but in reality the clothes did not fit or spoil it, but the person continues to use the wardrobe item? There are three options:
he sees before him not reality, but a picture of gloss (the one where the thing wore a photographed celebrity or a model no less strongly changed by filters and the right angle) and is not able to see itself behind this picture;
- wears this in order to fuel their own complexes (some people like to be victims, while others enjoy spoiling and mutilating themselves);
- he needs to find a tool that will allow others to demonstrate his financial situation, and through this he will at least be able to exalt himself in the eyes of strangers.
The situation is even more complicated in the absence of a sense of proportion . If a person wears exceptionally catchy branded items, complementing them with provocative, but expensive attributes, then it turns out not a bold and fashionable, but a cartoonish image. The most polite epithets for which are “parrot”, “dorval”, “expensive-rich”. These definitions clearly demonstrate the attitude of others to such a person.
Outsiders consider him a poser who seeks:
- demonstrate their financial capabilities;
- to ask the crowd for attention (namely, to beg, not to attract);
- behind bright sparkles, acidic colors and numerous big names on clothing labels hide your own insignificance, grayness or weakness.
For all this, it is necessary to distinguish people who wear exclusively luxury and neglect democratic wardrobe items, but do it expertly and without excesses, from those who make ensembles according to the same principle by which gypsies dress . Also, do not look for any subtext in the stage images of celebrity practicing the "magpie" outrage. This is part of their job.